Hi, I’m Melissa.
Thanks for stopping by.
Anxiety | Identity | Burn Out | Fatherless Daughters
If you’re anything like the women I work with……
You’ve become so good at managing things: your emotions, other people’s reactions, the atmosphere in the room, that it’s hard to even know what you feel anymore.
Some days, you live in your head. You overthink texts, analyse silences, and replay conversations until you’ve convinced yourself you said something wrong. You might find yourself bending over backwards to keep people close, saying yes when you mean no, because you’re terrified of being too much or not enough.
Then on the other days, the ones where you feel flat, numb, and disconnected. You scroll for hours. You spend money you don’t have, just to feel something. You stay in relationships that hurt, because leaving feels unbearable. You sit in meetings at work, feeling invisible, but can’t help but feel resentment when someone else gets praised.
You feel like you’re going crazy or losing your mind, when in reality, your nervous system is doing what it was taught to do, when connection felt uncertain.
Then it’s time to come home to yourself….
I like to think of therapy not as fixing or performing, but slowly peeling back the layers of everything you’ve had to be.
The survival mode.
The pressure to always be okay.
The silence around your needs.
And ultimately the fear of losing control.
So I’m not here to tell you what you already know. I’m here to help you feel safe again, not just in the world, but in your own skin. In therapy, we’ll begin to clear the emotional clutter, so we can stop reaching outwardly for validation and start reaching inwardly for understanding. Not to disconnect from others, but to actually reconnect with yourself.
Because while the world might encourage boundaries, boldness, and cutting people off, you probably don’t need more distance.
You need more connection, especially with yourself!